I have been invited by the wonderful Jean Fox to write a brief tribute to Stan.
Oh my!!! There is soooo much that I could write…apologies in advance if it proves not to be brief enough!
My hunch is that others will describe his countless academic, pioneering, and ground-breaking contributions to various fields and disciplines – the remarkable man that he is. Above and beyond remarkable.
So, I will keep the content of my paragraphs mostly personal.
Stanley Krippner is my best friend. Since my husband’s passing in 2007, he has continued to go out of his way to help me in my mission to keep Al’s (Albert Ellis PhD) work alive – inviting me to join him to present at various events and conferences, some of which were within the USA, including Puerto Rico, others in Mexico, Medellin (Colombia) and Canada. He has invited me to contribute chapters to various books. Stan does more than simply speak words of support – he also takes action, whether it’s generating new ideas and suggestions, giving wise feedback, or editing pieces I’ve written.
He has also spoken eloquently at many conferences and events about the contributions of Al (AL– as in Albert Ellis, not AI as in artificial intelligence!) and the influence Al had in his life, and honors his friendship with Al in so doing. Al would be so pleased about that. Al would also love, as I do, the thoroughness, reliability, and excellence that Stan consistently displays. Al would also be deeply grateful for Stan’s loyal friendship to me.
Most precious to me, more precious than the work-related elements described above, are his kindness and compassion. Stan is the one to whom I can confide anything and everything, and I know he genuinely cares, from his heart.
I feel it. That in itself provides a healing balm to me. At times of grief and trauma that I’ve coped with in recent decades, during the final years of Al’s life (when I was first acquainted with Stan through letters that he wrote to us) till current times, Stan has listened, encouraged, and supported me. Magnificently. He is truly my best friend.
His spirit of goodness and his selflessness are rare in this world.
Whilst many may purport to be humanistic, their actions may not match such assertions. Stan, however, walks the talk – giving, caring, and staying in touch with me and others, helping in whatever ways he can.
He may not think of himself as a Saint, but there is no denying that many of his actions are Saintly. I have received his goodness and witnessed him share that essential Stan-ness with countless others. His heart and soul consist of the essence and energy of goodness.
He is also very joyful company. How clearly I remember when we were at events in Mexico and Medellin, and at APA and other conferences in the USA, when there were social events with music and dance – he would dance with the joy, abandon, and delight of a young child! He was a magnet to one and all around the dance floor: so many people wanted to dance with him!
Stan and I have had the tradition that whenever he is in New York City, or during the rare occasions that I visit San Francisco, we would go to the theater. Sometimes we’d see musicals, other times dramas, occasionally comedies. I love the sound of his exclamations when hearing either a surprising phrase or a juicy punchline! He is an encyclopedia of information about the shows we attend before and after we attend them!
He is also an encyclopedia of information about many things in the fields of theater, literature, music, psychology, humanism, philosophy, science, and so much more.
Back to Broadway, and Stan’s effortless charisma and magnetism: We would often sit in the front row, and I would love observing the many times that actors would lock eyes with him as they spoke some of their lines, and the times that some would acknowledge him (and now and then even blow kisses - hello Chita Rivera!!!) as we shared our appreciation of them through standing ovations or when we saw them after the shows.
To conclude, my life is immeasurably better for knowing Stan and having the good fortune of having such a close and beautiful, authentic and heartfelt, friendship with him. I am grateful beyond words.
In this life, in which many people can be fickle, self-serving, utilitarian, and disloyal, Stan stands out as a dazzling beacon of light, kindness, compassion, reliability, and the best of humankind. With immense humility, he has an innate energy and presence that heals lives just by their coming into his proximity.
He is a man who constantly puts aside any of his wants in order to help others.
He is a brilliant man. He is a man who embraces life. He is a man who consistently practices and models some of the finest qualities that humans aspire to imbibe and express.
Stanley Krippner: A rare being, a precious soul, a gift.
Thank you, Stan. Love forever, Deb.